March 17, 2020

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My mother in law recently posted a pretty cool pic that she took. She takes many interesting photos, but for some reason, this one really stood out to me. The reason for that was because of the composition of the leaf and the shadow. I immediately knew that it would have tremendous metaphorical value for what I wanted to talk about in the blog. I shared this with the Sane One, and she said “Ohhh, are you going to use the Brad...

March 11, 2020

In the world of international adoptions, Koreans are the VegeBurger or Gardenburger. And while the numbers do not reach the levels of Koreans adopted around the world, the next evolutions were the Chinese, Russians, Guatemalans, and other countries that are becoming popular sources for international adoption into the US. It’s not necessarily fair to Koreans, but somebody has to be first, and for a country renowned for always c...

March 6, 2020

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You guys should all be familiar by now with Derek's Law Of Assumption: When you assume, you look like a dickhead. Don't be a dickhead. Well, I violated my own rule not too long ago. And I messed up in a pretty significant way. It was about my relationship with my wife. Now, to be fair, as a husband, I don't really know that much about my relationship with the Sane One, aka my wife. I know it's been a while since I've posted, s...

June 14, 2019

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To my knowledge, I am the only Asian Derek Fisher in the world. Facebook research shows that the vast majority of DFs are white, but there are also some black DFs, the most famous one being a former LA Laker and now coach of the LA Sparks. You want to disappoint a lot of people? Go to dinner in LA with the name Derek Fisher and see the confusion when I walk in the door. Which reminds me that I totally forgot to do my planned A...

May 16, 2019

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A friend of ours very generously shares her poultry eggs with us. In the past, they have consisted of delicious and very fresh chicken eggs. The batch that we received this time however had four duck eggs in the carton. I never had a duck egg before, so this was a new experience. Typically, I find that the best approach to eggs is to not really think about it at all and just enjoy their high levels of tastiness. The more thoug...

April 10, 2019

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The elephant in the room, at least for me regarding international adoption, finally needs to be discussed. I’ve avoided really exploring this issue for almost my entire life, because I felt to really do so would be disrespectful to my parents and potentially cause me to go down paths that are really best left unexplored. But I’ve attempted to write about this and changed my mind so many times that I think I can’t avoid it any...

April 4, 2019

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Today, a fellow Penn State student and Korean American Adoptee (KAD) took her Oath of Citizenship in her naturalization ceremony at 52. She was adopted and came into the US in 1967. So why did it take 52 years to get her citizenship? Because we have fucked up laws regarding international adoption and citizenship. And relatively no one outside of the adoptee community really gives a shit about it. The Adopteee Citizenship Act 2...

March 6, 2019

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Last week, on the KAD page, something quite disruptive happened that reflected a lot of problems that are simmering below the surface -- not just in our little group, but in society as a whole. The catalyst of the conflict was a new member who showed up in the group and promptly broadcasted that she, as a Korean-born American, doesn't find Asian men very attractive at all. Her dream guy doesn't resemble Lee Byung-Hun in any wa...

January 24, 2019

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I just had a brutal, knockdown, drag-out fight. With myself. No, not like Fight Club, but more like Me, Myself, and Irene. Lots of name calling was used, and both sides of myself told the other side to quit bitching. Maybe I should start videotaping these blog posts so that you all can see what I go through to make you think and be entertained. What I was fighting about was how I am perceived by society. Normally this would be...

November 8, 2018

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A truly horrible day was two years ago yesterday when I was coming home from rugby practice and I called the Sane One to ask how the election was going. She answered the phone in a worried voice and I could tell that something was terribly wrong. The worst person to enter American politics was about to become the next President of the United States. While this was met with joy by some people, the vast majority of educated and...

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